2021.10.21 02:25 slow-wifi Anyone else having trouble articulating words and speaking well?
So, here's my problem: for some reason, I've always had a shitty time talking to people, even friends. I don't get nervous (or at least I don't think I do), yet I always stutter, mumble, and talk fast. I can lay out my thoughts well over text/writing, but I am a mess in person. Every single time where I've had class presentations, I inevitably fuck up and turn silent. Every class seminar, I'm the last to talk, and when I do talk, it's a fucking shitshow. As a result, people (most likely) think I'm awkward, nervous, unconfident, and probably mentally challenged.
My self-esteem has always been at an all time low because of that. I tried talking to more people, who I'm sure pity me enough to reciprocate, but I always run into the same problem of stuttering, mumbling, and talking fast to the point of incoherence. I even joined a college seminar course to encourage me to talk more, but of course, still fucking silent. Trust me, I've tried thinking before speaking and talking slowly, but nothing works. It is really difficult for me to explain or rant about topics without turning into a mess. I think if I allow this to persist, I will ruin all potential for friendships, relationships, and connections. I really want to help myself and figure out what's wrong with me, but I don't know what to do.
I think I've always suffered from anxiety (or at least some other disorder). I feel like therapy might help, but my parents don't believe in mental health issues.
My inability to talk to people well has created a hatred to talk and discouraged me to make friends. Fuck talking to people, honestly.
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2021.10.21 02:25 Silly_Plate2292 14[F] My online bestfriend 14[M] insulted my real life friend, because he's a "sissy"
I've been pretty good friends with both so I don't want to unfriend any of them, I just feel uncomfortable when he says something bad about him. It's been happening for 3 weeks now and I haven't told him how I feel about this. What should I do?
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2021.10.21 02:25 Kedatrecal If you've not read it already, I think this sub would appreciate this book.
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2021.10.21 02:25 Alphadestrious Update
2021.10.21 02:25 FunCustomer1689 What type am I?
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I'm a 19 year old male. Currently studying math in college. According to TraitLab, I am imperturbable, skeptical, informal, forceful, and unenvious. It also mentioned me being aloof, cynical, unemotional, lax, insensitive, confident, curt and courageous. I think all of these are true. When people criticize me, they often tell me I'm brash, an asshole, or too cocky/arrogant. I think that its very easy for me to come off as an immoral person, but I actually have a set of rules, a code that I abide by. It's something that I've thought about for a while and developed over time. On the surface I seem very chaotic, I was a delinquent in high school school, even now I come off as some rulebreaker, rebellious, and very relaxed, but I still always abide by my code. I can often come across as aggressive irl, but I also tend to seem very introverted and unemotional. I have a really hard time expressing my emotions, which is something I wish I could improve. I often just say "ok" with a blank face. I guess the last thing I want to say about myself, I care a lot about strength. I don't like to accept weakness in myself, and I always try to be strong, both mentally and physically. I think a lot of this flows into my image of being a "true man", influenced by my childhood role models.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
Not much religious upbringing, not very religious now. Was very rebellious throughout. Causing trouble, getting into fights, acting like an idiot all round.
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
I'm a student. It's annoying, lot of nonsense to deal with. Most classes are boring and classmates are annoying. I'm finally getting more freedom in what classes I get to take, so that's cool. But even then, its a major pain, don't feel like I'm cut out for it.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
Refreshed. Do this most weekends.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
Many kinds. I'm great at sports, enjoy them a lot, MMA/combat sports are my favorite. I crave adrenaline rushes a lot, often chase this rush, and enjoy sports that can give me this (typically extreme sports, but sometimes the competitiveness of normal sports can give me this rush). Wasn't as good at sports as a kid, dunno what changed as I aged. I like music a lot, playing with a band or making my own music. However, I also enjoy a lot of indoor activities. Learning about whatever topic interests me at the time, and the typical activities like anime, gaming, etc.
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
I'm curious, I like to build up a lot of knowledge on things. I have more ideas than I can execute, I often feel like life is too short because I want to do a lot. I'm curious about topics that interest me, but also how situations or people react to me. What will happen if I do x, etc. My ideas can be both. Sometimes they are just about plans of mine, things I want to do. But they can also be about my view of the world or artistic, something I want to create.
I have a lot of theories about the world, on what I think about people, morality, etc. It's very interesting to me, the more subjective side of thinking than just facts. I do want to highlight this is a key part of myself.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
I would enjoy being a leader. I wouldn't want to deal with people too much, wouldn't be overbearing but I would give a few instructions and be very assertive. I don't like other people to make decisions for me so I take a leadership role naturally. I would probably be irritable with certain things, for example, I hate saying the same thing over and over.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
Yeah. I'm pretty athletic and good at physical tasks. I like working with machinery, took robotics and engineering classes in high school. I like to create things on my own, modify cars, I spent a lot of time following tutorials on the internet for making cool things. My family usually asks me for help when something needs to be fixed.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
Yeah, I like to play and make music. I also like to write stories. I base music off of what I think sounds cool, and a vibe I want to give off. I try and make my stories convey certain ideas of mine and overall just focus on creating interesting environments and plots. I struggle with dialogue.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
I live in the present, I try not to get too caught up with the past and the future, though I do try to plan for my future a bit and learn from the past. I'm a very adaptable person, I can quickly react to changes in my surroundings or life. I've learnt over time to trust my instincts. I like to combine my rationality and reasoning with my instincts, I tend to go with what my gut feels a lot of the time.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
If its something minor I would probably just help. I don't like to waste too much energy helping people when it won't benefit me, but if its something easy I would probably do it. If it required more work, I'd only do it to look for some benefit.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Yes, I tend to get very annoyed when things don't line up logically, I have to spend a while sorting things out before I proceed.
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
Efficiency is important, I don't want to waste too much energy or time on things when I don't have to. Incompetence annoys me a lot. I'm not too concerned with productivity, but I wouldn't want to be a complete waste.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
Sort of, just naturally. It's just the way I interact with people, I'm very assertive and naturally take a sort of commanding role. People sometimes say that I can be forceful. I don't really do it intentionally, I just am that way, but I suppose a lot of it based off of coming off as confident and physically imposing.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
I listed my hobbies already earlier up. I like them because they're fun, bring me some sort of thrill, satisfy me in some form, or I enjoy being competitive.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
Rather independent. I have to figure things out on my own, I hate hearing a teacher going on and on saying the same thing over and over again. I usually try to find some sort of pattern and sometimes rely on trial and error. I tend to catch on quick, but its a pain for me to listen to someone speak for a long time. I prefer logic among those listed, with physical senses next.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
Pretty good. I'm generally good at coming up with a plan to accomplish whatever I want, predicting how something will go, etc. I usually wing projects.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
Professionally, I want to start a successful company. I don't think I would be a very good employee, knowing my personality I don't think I'm cut out for some typical office job. But I do want to feel satisfied with my accomplishments in life, I also think starting a company and working on my projects play to my strengths. I want to make a lot of money and be a powerful person so I can do whatever I want.
Personally, I look towards developing my skills a lot. Becoming real good at music, fitter, better at programming and math, more knowledgeable in history, science, working on several of my side projects that I mentioned earlier. Performing well in competitive sports on an amateur level. Want an abode by the wilderness one day, to live on my own detached from civilization. Wanna learn how to fly a plane.
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
Can't think of any fears of mine. Maybe it would be becoming a mediocre person who did nothing with his life, or worse. I get uncomfortable at overt displays of affection, I just feel overwhelmed and don't know how to react. I hate gross people, bad smells, I can be a bit sensitive to those things. I also tend to get pissed off by slow or incompetent people. I get annoyed by constantly whining people. If I'm being honest I dislike most people, they just seem stupid to me. I have more reasons but I don't think its necessary for me to go on a rant about human nature on here. Hate getting lectures especially when people morally grandstand.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
Doing very well academically career. Improving and spending a lot of time on my interests. Lots of freedom and have a lot of fun. Don't have to deal with people a lot, but have good (preferably text) conversations with a couple guys I know.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
Feeling lazy and pathetic, not accomplishing much, surrounded by people all day, annoying ones. Just dealing with annoying routine shit constantly, not getting a break. Sometimes how I feel with school.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
I can be a bit detached from reality sometimes, dunno, like confusing my dreams and reality, or having these weird visions. But at the same time I think I'm a practical and competent person. I daydream a good amount, but also pay attention to my surroundings. I'm very aware of my surroundings, I often realize details that most others don't. I like staring at nature and getting lost in it.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
Think of how to get out. Or just think of my view on the world, my theories, try and develop those.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I'm pretty decisive. I like to think things through, but can make quick decisions too. I rarely change my mind after.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
I don't think about my emotions too much. Tends to build up and hit me at once. Usually just get mad then.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
No, it seems really boring and spineless. I always say what's on my mind.
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
Yeah I break rules often. I think some rules and authority figures are pretty stupid, but I also hate being told what to do. I like to follow my own set of rules.
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2021.10.21 02:25 SaltyCicada4858 Right beside McEwan.. and 5-7 mins walk from McEwan station (girls only)
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2021.10.21 02:25 kd_187 I chose to play fable 2 for a essay need help with these questions!
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2021.10.21 02:25 cuminaglassbyosmosis prepare for the best banana milkshake of your life
2021.10.21 02:25 l1lSilentl1l What happened to Arrow
After smoking Titan i went back for a replay in Act 6 tournament. Hoping to see Arrow's pretty face, i see that guy holding a spiky mallet. Where on earth is she?
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2021.10.21 02:25 eastnebraskan South Padre Island - LeicaQ2
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2021.10.21 02:25 Substantial-Ad3217 Ummmmm wtf? Hdd outperforming nvme ssd…
2021.10.21 02:25 Stohastic- Started playing Destiny again, Anyone know what this black smudge thing is? it's there whenever im in 3rd person, so sparrow, swords, mission items, etc.
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2021.10.21 02:25 rharris98_ He will live on forever❤️
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2021.10.21 02:25 BMcBain92 Printer recommendation
Hey everyone, I did see the post about the printer list but too much information for my mind to read, so I wanted to make this post.
So I'm looking for a decent printer budget (300-500+) is kinda up in the air but not looking for cheap but at least mid quality! I know a few things about but thought I'd ask here.
Top features for me are 1:quality 2: reliability 3: easy if maintenance 4: heated bed (I know this is important)
The reason why the top 3 are like that is because im in wheelchair and it'll be a bit hard for me to fix it, I could fix them, it'd just be a hassle for me.
Any help would be greatly appreciated along with pros/cons of the printers. Thanks for the help!
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2021.10.21 02:25 DankKing256 MIT Activities Section Question
For the MIT Activities section, you are required to put down "Organization Name". If I am good at guitar, and have won many national competitions and other awards, can I just write "Guitar" under organization name, as it is my best extracurricular activity, but does not have an official organization affiliated with it?
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2021.10.21 02:25 honestandpositiveman Are mounts or any items account wide?
2021.10.21 02:25 DeadByStacey When is the patch tho?
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2021.10.21 02:25 Ok_Instruction_6362 Alguien caliente que morbosee a mi novia?
2021.10.21 02:25 spockmansworld I'm too young to be in a love triangle and other weird feelings. AMA
2021.10.21 02:25 Laddo22 Can AoE 3 2007 Steam version play with Definitive Version?
2021.10.21 02:25 TSB223 Is anyone willing to do a free reading on a terrible living situation where me and my mom want to move out?
My mom is definitely feeding off a lot of negative energy that no one is willing to help us and that we can’t find a place. And it’s seeping into me now. Everyone is rejecting us or the place is just not a fit for us. It feels we are stuck and trapped. And I’m starting to lose hope. We feel like we just wanna give up. I want to know where this is going and if there’s any breakthrough….
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2021.10.21 02:25 quote_emperor cartolina-aforisma-anton-pavlovich-chekhov-15
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2021.10.21 02:25 Neoslayer One earth steel and 1 steel is way less than a round shield which is made from it. That makes me wonder, is there any kind of list that shows the best merchant value from all items?
People always tell me to craft raw materials, but I realized crafting higher tier items gets good value as well. I easily get stacks upon stacks of them from the merchant and found round shields are extremely profitable. Any potential list of StickPoints prices I can find?
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2021.10.21 02:25 RLCD-Bot [Saffron Octane] [Octane: Kilowatt] [Saffron Hypernova] [Saffron Asik]
2021.10.21 02:25 fanfarius Marcel Dettmann - Plain [Beatstreet 2008]
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